THE PSYCHOLOGY OF GOAL SETTING
Even more troubling was their dismissal of the fact that they were actually happy with their current weight and activity level. They liked that being at their current weight allowed them to enjoy their lives; go out with friends, and enjoy the occasional drink. I was baffled! Why would someone who was happy with their current body weight and social interactions want to fight so desperately to change it? What could be so wrong? Because of that conversation I began to wonder just how many people had the same mindset, believing something was wrong with them and that it had to be changed. It doesn’t have to be that way though. We have the power to change our minds and take back control of our lives. How? Well, we can start by asking ourselves some very simple but very powerful questions:
Why? Why did we choose the specific goal we’re striving toward?
What’s wrong with us the way we are?
Who told us we weren’t good enough the way we are?
Why did we believe them?
Then begin to ask:
What matters to me?
What makes me happy?
What do I value?
I am not knocking having a goal. I’m not even disparaging those with highly ambitious goals. Goals in and of themselves are not inherently bad. Unfortunately, when we strive toward a goal that has no meaning for us, and makes us miserable along the way, we might be doing ourselves a lot more harm than good.